Tried and proven tools that have helped 100+ clients lower anxiety, boost productivity, and cruise through the day with ease.
- Words have the power to make or break your day
- You experience the life you focus on, focus comes from words
- In Neuro-Linguistic Programming we use the language of the mind to master life
1) Change your “to-do” list to a “to-celebrate” OR “desires” list.
WHY: it’s factually accurate AND feels better. “To do” brings pressure and an invisible whip to beat yourself with. A desires list is just an actual representation of what you do want— a list of things you desire to do for a specific purpose.
BETTER THAN:
“To manifest” list because if you don’t achieve a desire today? You’re cool getting it tomorrow. If you don’t manifest it today, you tend to feel like *you* personally failed at ~*manifesting*~
2) Exchange “I have to” for “I choose to”
WHY: It’s empowering AF. You’re no longer at the mercy of/the victim of your “schedule” – it’s a choice you’re making. You’re entitled to make a different one.
BETTER THAN: “get to” because forced gratitude only brings feelings of shame and guilt. And that’s the lowest emotional vibration we’ve measured to date.
3) Change the “deadline” for the “celebration/party/finish/frozen margaritas line”
WHY: the deadline is the imaginary line where prisoners get shot or killed for getting too close to the prison fence. Literally, it’s meant to kill anyone approaching freedom.
That’s gross. A celebration, party, or finish line reminds you of flying confetti, toasting glasses, and winner fun. That’s why you want the thing done, right?
BETTER THAN: anything using murder as motivation. Go easy on the margaritas.
4) ASK: What’s the abundant side of this?
WHY: every subject is two subjects or, more specifically: two poles. If temperature were a stick, on one end, you’d have “cold” or rather “absence of heat” and on the other, heat. Hot is the “abundant side of temperature,” and cold is the “lack.”
Use this question whenever you’re feeling poop over something you’re observing, hearing, or thinking. For example:
- Success means you’ll leave friends behind (lack/poop)/As you grow new friendships will appear (abundant/fertilizer)
- I’m not successful because I haven’t done X/There are lots of things I could still try to be more successful, heck there are a whole bunch of 20+ letters before X
- She’s more talented than I am/Talent is nothing but a honed skill.
I can hone anything I choose.
BETTER THAN: arguing for the limitation, which is akin to making a case against the person who hired you to defend them. Stop focusing on the lack.
5) ASK What is the path of least resistance? Or the “easiest path” - if you dare.
WHY: 9/10 times, you’re probably doing what you think is “right” instead of what’s easier to achieve your desire or goal. What’s the easier thing for *you* today, right now?
- If the goal is for the dishes to be clean: run the dishwasher twice.
- If the goal is to eat healthy food: order a bean salad.
- If the goal is to write a blog post: talk to your phone and use AI to transcribe it (like Otter.ai)
Contrary to capitalist opinion: hard things are not more inherently valuable than easy things. Dishwashers save more water than handwashing, takeout food feeds the economy, and AI is meant to make tasks easier.
BETTER THAN: doing the “right thing” for the cookie points no one is giving you anyway.
BONUS: Ask yourself What do I DO desire?
WHY: contrast (aka your dislikes, the things that make you roll your eyes, Donald Trump’s career) will always exist. The purpose of contrast is CLARITY. So use it.
When you feel out of sorts ask yourself, “what do I do want in this situation?” It might not be perfectly clear right away, but it will instantly refocus your attention, interrupt the emotional pattern, and lead you toward your actual desires.
BETTER THAN: endlessly talking about that *one* coworker you don’t like so you keep attracting similar a-holes into your life. Who do you DO like, Susan?
Sending you love and relaxation,
Coach Gaby
